Want your relationship to succeed? Make sure it is endowed instead of entitled. So what is an endowed relationship? An endowed relationship is a relationship where we simply remember that our relationship with our partner is a gift, and because they are a gift, we are kind to them. In order to maintain an endowed, happy successful relationship I will be sharing with you a series of endowment challenges with you on this blog.
Marriage Saving Tip 2: Speak with grace and kindness
How many times have you seen—or experienced –partners treating each other in harsh, disrespectful ways? Too often we take our partners for granted, and disrespect or rudeness intentional or unintentional flows from our mouths before we realize what we are saying.
Disrespect is one of entitlements greatest tools. As we discussed in an earlier chapter, entitlement thrives in an environment of disrespect. Entitlement tells us that we need to fight for our rights, but too often it turns into a fight about being right, instead. Our intense desire to be right is the exact foothold entitlement needs to wound our relationships. In our efforts to be right we find that we will do whatever it takes to make the other person wrong. If you have a choice between being loving, respectful and kind or being right, take the higher road, the one that leads to love, and choose love, over and over again. Showing kindness and respect in the things that you say to your partner will always pay great dividends in the end, while being right most often will leave you with nothing but a hallow emptiness inside, and a band aid on your pride.