How to Mother Toddlers
Completely adorable as they are, being a mother of a toddler or any child from the ages of 2 to 6 has its unique challenges. Where do we learn how to mother? I think we all would agree that Positive parenting is imperative for the successful, and happy development of your children, but where do we go to learn how? There is higher education for everything in the world except the two things we need most, parenting and relationships.
Positive parenting is a learning process for parents, and living positively is a skill parents pass on to their children. I remember giving birth and then wondering, now HOW am I supposed to mother? I basically knew what I had learned growing up and what I had learned while getting my psychology degree, but I felt neither experience had adequately prepared me for the job I was getting ready to undertake. It was a learn as you go project for me and I continue to learn every day along with my sons who are grown now. I remember how it was to parent them as toddlers and how many times I wished I had a step-by-step guide that would help me parent the "right" way. I know not all people are the same, but I also know that there are certain rules that I learned along the way that make the entire parenting job much more fun, much more effective and much easier.
First thing to remember is that as a parent you will make mistakes. You will lose your temper, you will cry, you will feel overwhelmed, you will be exhausted, you will wish you could flush some of your children's bad behaviors down the toliet and all of those feelings are natural, then you will do the hokey pokey and turn yourself around and realize, that's what its all about.
As long as you re willing to consistently learn and grow, and are willing to make necessary changes that is the ultimate goal. Think of the prize as your child becoming an extraordinary, healthy, happy adult.
I really took this topic to heart when I discovered some problem areas within my own parenting. As always if you ever need any advice or even just want to vent contact me through my contact form on this website. I am here to help.
Successful Positive Parenting Toddlers:
- * Parenting Positive Tips for 1-2 year olds
- Read to your baby daily. I cannot stress this enough. Keep this habit throughout their lives.
- Listen to a variety of music and move around and giggle. It is called dancing with abandon.
- Listen to a variety of languages. Turn the TV on a Spanish channel and just allow your child to hear the language. The more languages they hear at this age, the easier it will be to speak fluently when they are ready to learn another language.
- Ask your child to point to objects, name body parts or point to letters of the alphabet.
- If you can, do this in at least 3 languages. You can learn simple body parts by going to the internet.
- Matching games are great for this age.
- Children are naturally curious. Encourage him/her to explore new things.
- Talk, talk, talk. Develop your baby’s language by talking with her/him.
Count every day. Count everything from steps to cheerios.
- * Parenting Positive Tips For 2-3 year olds
- Keep reading. Reading is imperative to child development.
- Pretend. Dream. Imagine. Teach your child to dream from a very early age.
- Play follow the leader, or have parades. They are lots of fun.
- Go on adventures. Take walks.
- Ask your child their name and age often.
Sing simple songs with your child and say simple rhymes.
- Other Positive Parenting Tips:
Self esteem comes from making a difference in the lives of others. Give your child many opportunities to give back. It is the greatest habit you will teach them.
Separate the Action or Behavior from the Child
Teach your child that all people make bad decisions and choices every once in a while and that it is their job to learn from their mistakes. Let your child know that you love them, but you also dislike and disapprove of some of their choices or behaviors because that is your job as a parent. Most children will test you through temper tantrums. If temper tantrums work, they will keep throwing them. If they do not work, they will stop throwing them. When you child throws a temper tantrum at home, stay calm and say, “I guess you need to practice self-control. Good. I will give you some time and space to practice. Let me know when you have succeeded at calming yourself,”
- Be Consistent and Follow Through
When disciplining, Be Consistent and Follow Through If you have made an agreement that your child cannot buy candy when she gets to the store, do not give in to her pleas, tears, demands or temper tantrums. If you do, you will be encouraging many more. It is important that you live and model integrity which means, you say what you mean, and mean what you say.
You are the Mirror
This is important. Your children will mirror what you do. You are the model. Be careful what you do and say around your children. Behave the way you want your child to behave. “Do as I say, and not as I do” is not a positive, effective parenting strategy. Be a great example for your children.
It is up to you what kind of children you raise. You are the mother. Parents in general, but mother’s in particular have enormous influence on how their children look at, and respond to the world and others. Want to be a great mother?